Broken Women Trying to Heal

I came across a post today on Instagram, it said, “It takes a strong man to handle a broken woman”. Well I’d rather add my own part to that quote and say, “It takes a Strong Man to handle a Woman that’s been broken and is trying to heal.”

We usually meet good, amazing, nice, thoughtful, loving men (Our IT men) when we are in the healing process. But everyone is in some type of process though. This IT man is probably in a process too, a find the right-type process, just seeing my options process, find a new girl to get over my ex process, I’m being pressured by my family to get married process, or even a I’m bored and need some company process. But get this; a woman still healing is in the process of trying to build up her confidence from the catastrophe of a relationship with the last guy. Building anything takes steps to complete. I can even say break-ups are similar to post traumatic stress disorder. It’s a battlefield when it comes to love don’t you think? She’s all caught up in the remembrance of all the short-comings the last guy said she had, the flaws he picked at, the jealousy she endured, the distance he kept, the intimate details about their relationship he shared; mental battles. And women are much more fragile than men, they can sometimes block it out and move right along. Although it'll be in the back of their mind.

It’s easy for me to feel broken because I was neglected in a previous relationship.  I probably didn't receive the care that I deserved or needed. That's not my fault, not is it your fault for being treated wrongly. But it affects me NOW because if any guy even acts like he doesn't care, I'm over it. Its given me a standard for the "care" that I know I deserve, anything less is mediocre. Personally speaking, I will tell you what I do not like. If you cannot come to doing it, I will slowly start to dislike you. Life is too short to not be loved the way you want to be loved. Love is too dynamic, too enormous, too heavy! Imagine, Jesus gave his LIFE on that cross for the remission of our sins because of LOVE. And you can't even get a text, call, email, voice-mail, BBM back from someone you care about. Yeah, maybe they're busy. No one is ever that busy.

It’s easy for women to project the bitchassness from the last guy onto their newly found IT guy. But remember, he’s in a process just like you so time is of the essence and every action is critical. Your doubt about him shows that you're healing, that you need him to try extra hard. Extra hard enough for you to feel comfortable, safe, protected. It’s in you.

The beautiful woman that you see when you look into my face, the one that you know will always have your back, when you’re sick, when you need encouragement, when you only have $20 but then puts $1000.00 in your wallet, when you cry, when you graduate, when you have no one on your side, she’s there, INSIDE, waiting patiently for you consistent love. Waiting for your motivating words, waiting for your reassurance of how much you say you love her, waiting for your committed ways to reflect in your words. She wants your good morning messages, even if you live in another time-zone, to have you to call her to come outside and surprise her at work for lunch, to have you show the world how much she means to you.

It sounds like a job for Batman or Spiderman doesn't it? Yeah it probably is, but it’s a journey worth walking when you know she’s worth it. So how is it done, to get that woman to heal? It’s easy, take time to talk to your lady every single day and be encouraging and funny! Show her your desire for her, involve her in your life (work, future plans, current plans). There are 24 hours in a day, if you miss talking to your lady for more than two days; it’s obvious you are not in a relationship. Even if you’re upset with her, a day shouldn’t pass when you do not speak to her; see how she’s doing and so on. And ladies you should also suck up your pride and stop that whole, “he has to text me first” nonsense because there are plenty girls ready to even get the time of the day to text him.

But there’s more…tune in for another part to another part lol "What happens during the critical part of dating".

Absolutely love the way she looks in this video. Besides her make up and clothes, she looks like she invoked some emotion in this shot. She looks hurt, awkward, scared, and in need of love.

Ezi Emela - Broken