What Men Answered in my "Bachelor's Quiz" (Episode 1)

Last year I was curious enough about the male species to create a 21 Questioned Quiz, which I administered over the phone to some and the rest I did in person. It was all about Bachelors, and the lives they live. Some were current bachelors, and one was not. Each week, I will combine each of their answers for a specific question.  I bet you're wondering why I spent my time asking these questions to these men, but I did it because I know it is essential to the lives of the general public (women mostly) because women do things that get ruled out as "wife" material and into the "bopper" or the girl they just go to for shit. I asked a lot of juicy questions, and believe me I got some REAL JUICY answers. 

QuestionWhat type of girls do you look for? (Personality, looks, intellectual ability, etc)


"Funny, something going for herself, supportive of what he does, a female that compliments you, plays her position (lets him do what he does, helps him, doesn't nag). "

"Goal-oriented, funny, laid-back, sensual (in touch with their femininity), freaky, honest with you and herself"

"Grown woman, funny, smart, saved"

"Smart, pretty, fun, church going, open minded, well dressed"

"Funny, outgoing, her personality has to be sexy, will be open to anything depending on what it is"

"Genuine, nice person, kind-hearted, sense of humor, good values, morals, strong religious beliefs, spontaneous, educated, business oriented"

"Funny, nice, laid back, smart, good cook"

"Laid back, chill with, freaky, able to talk to, hold a convo, can play with (can tae a joke), but knows when to get serious, smart girl, good hygiene."

"Talker, has a backbone, will argue, very opinionated, Nose and smile"

"Smart, funny, honest (main), polite, has manners, well dressed (fly),"

"Smart, laid back, cool, outgoing, funny, talk to about anything, not a liar, classy, friendly."

"Intelligent girl, sense of humor, open-minded" 

"Outgoing, Nice smile, Funny, Doing something with themselves, Makes you work for her love"

As you can see these are each separate quotes from the interviews I did and each guy had the same type of response. I did an un-biased one-on-one interview with each guy, so they didn't have any idea what the other guys said..until after the interview. Ladies, this is what men what. A cool, laid-back girl, that can make them laugh, teach them something new with her intellect, smell good, be honest, can make a good meal, and etc. Do a check-list of yourself, are you even close to what these guys described? Any man will love you for you even if you can't provide all the above, but would you want to overachieve and satisfy your man in every way if he does for you? Like I said, this is to benefit the women, because some just wonder why they DON'T have a man. 

Stay tuned for the next question...


Passion at Second Meet

He kissed me, and I kissed him back. Lips so soft I didn't want to kiss him too hard so as to not damage them. Eyes close to seal the moment. It felt so unreal. I haven't enjoyed kissing like this in awhile. Was that a chill? Wait though, lets rewind a bit, how it did we get HERE, in the room, with our lips colliding in such a magical force pushing them together. Its a story of passion at second meet. 

..earlier that night

We were all having normal conversation, about life, men, women, music, anything you could think of. As more people started to get comfortable with themselves, the shots started to take their effect. Couple shots of patron and some more shots of vodka can take their toll on a girl that hasn't felt a buzz in awhile. I precoded to work the room, conversing with men and women of different walks of life. I love conversation, it really rules the nation. 

Ok, so as the night went on, I hear these bee's in my ear pretty much accusing me of not being able to hold my liq-or. C'mon, I'ma grown ass woman, I got this. So I proceeded to flow around the room, having good time. Then he walks up to me, asks me how I feel. I look up laughing like, "Good, but, why you keep askin?" Deep in my soul, something said he cared thats why. But, how  can my soul say that its just our second meet? 

"Cause for some reason  I feel like I'm supposed to look out for you, like a big brother or somethin...lil sis" - His words interrupted my entire drunken thought process. My loud ass says... "Lil sister? Oh nooo, I'm not down". He wonders why, and I couldn't even explain why. Next memory is him guiding me over to the couch to discuss more. He asked me questions from then on, and I remember him liking my answers so much as to give me a couple high-fives. The questions are still a blur. 

Blurry as my eyes. But I caught I glimpse of his watch, and I wanted to wear it. So I asked. He told me it has sentimental value and blahblahlah, and he said he had another one and it was located at home, in his room. To the room we went, but no watch, just a kiss. And more kisses. And even MORE kisses. Just kisses though, nothing more. 

But...my head was spinning. I told him, and he kissed my forehead and told me that, that should help. I opened my eyes, but it was still spinning. Another kiss. I opened my eyes, to see the room wasn't spinning anymore. Hmm, I hope this isn't juju magic lol. I was relieved though, but how did we get there? 

Either way, I kind of needed that spark. Needed, and indirectly wanted it. It felt too right. Usually when guys kiss me, I dread it and cringe inside, but not that time. Thank You


The Cockblocking Must Come To an End

Don't charge me up for being away from you for so long, but a new post is beyond over due. This is my therapy.. so lets get right on to it.
Over the past few weeks I've experienced two crazy situations. The first situation happened during a party that I was invited to by one of my homeboys. I got there sober, so I was laid back waiting for the partying to get poppington.com.. after awhile people started to arrive, but it he seemed to want to be under me the entire time. See me, I'm not for that. It got irritating, like my dude, STEP OFF! Its a party setting, can I get my swerve on sitting where I am, and not be pestered? STOP THE CUFFING IN THE PARTYS unless she's your main guys! Women don't like that. But that wasn't even the worst part. I walked behind a couple of guys in order to get a napkin, and they obviously were choosing, cause all 3 of their heads followed my direction. I was bored, and they entertained me with jokes, and one guy liked my voice. Anyway, one guy ultimately enforced the rule that whoever peeped first gets the girl, and so he gave me his number (after much hesitation because he thought I wasnt going to call) then UP walks my friend that invited me, and pulls my arm and walks me away from them. WTF! It felt like an out of body experience, like "Is this really happening in your life" type moment. FLAG ON THE PLAY! What kind of cockblockin was that! He got an aggressive text that day smh. 

Playas, STOP THE COCKBLOCKIN. Playas always get chose, if your game is tight, she know it is already. Don't sweat the small stuff. Cute girls will always get chose.


I still want a bottom piece grill..





Fly Bitch Shades


Morning lovin'



I Want That Old Thing Back


Management Please!!!

Life is like a house, each day there is a new guest, which demand attention and hospitality (your life issues/ordeals). In order for your home not to be destroyed, manage your guests by nightly evaluations which including problem solving techniques. Next, put them in motion. Look, if you don't evaluate yourself, your life, your character, YOU period, how will you ever know if you're having progress. Sit down, check on you, write a list of things you notice in you that you can work on, write the ordeals that happen that day and possible ways to come about them. 

..you'll need it, cause trust me, you'll get about 2-3 guests a day.


Her Morning Elegance

Thanks to my sister sharing this with me, I get the opporunity to share
this rare artistic video with you all.


Wiz Khalifa - Kush x Orange Juice

highly anticipated..CLICK 2 DOWNLOAD


DISTURBING: The Willie Lynch Letter

The Making Of A Slave!

This speech was delivered by Willie Lynch on the bank of the James River in the colony of Virginia in 1712. Lynch was aBritish slave owner in the West Indies. He was invited to the colony of Virginia in 1712 to teach his methods to slaveowners there. The term "lynching" is derived from his last name.

December 25, 1712


I greet you here on the bank of the James River in the year of our Lord one thousand seven hundred and twelve. First, Ishall thank you, the gentlemen of the Colony of Virginia, for bringing me here. I am here to help you solve some of yourproblems with slaves. Your invitation reached me on my modest plantation in the West Indies, where I have experimentedwith some of the newest and still the oldest methods for control of slaves. Ancient Rome's would envy us if my program isimplemented.As our boat sailed south on the James River, named for our illustrious King, whose version of the Bible we cherish, I sawenough to know that your problem is not unique. While Rome used cords of wood as crosses for standing human bodiesalong its highways in great numbers, you are here using the tree and the rope on occasions. I caught the whiff of a deadslave hanging from a tree, a couple miles back. You are not only losing valuable stock by hangings, you are havinguprisings, slaves are running away, your crops are sometimes left in the fields too long for maximum profit, You sufferoccasional fires, your animals are killed.Gentlemen, you know what your problems are; I do not need to elaborate. I am not here to enumerate your problems, Iam here to introduce you to a method of solving them. In my bag here, I have a foolproof method for controlling your blackslaves. I guarantee every one of you that if installed correctly it will control the slaves for at least 300 years [2012]. Mymethod is simple. Any member of your family or your overseer can use it. I have outlined a number of differences amongthe slaves and make the differences bigger. I use fear, distrust and envy for control.These methods have worked on my modest plantation in the West Indies and it will work throughout the South. Take thissimple little list of differences and think about them. On top of my list is "age" but it's there only because it starts with an"A." The second is "COLOR" or shade, there is intelligence, size, sex, size of plantations and status on plantations,attitude of owners, whether the slaves live in the valley, on a hill, East, West, North, South, have fine hair, course hair, oris tall or short. Now that you have a list of differences, I shall give you an outline of action, but before that, I shall assureyou that distrust is stronger than trust and envy stronger than adulation, respect or admiration. The Black slaves afterreceiving this indoctrination shall carry on and will become self refueling and self generating for hundreds of years, maybethousands. Don't forget you must pitch the old black Male vs. the young black Male, and the young black Male against theold black male. You must use the dark skin slaves vs. the light skin slaves, and the light skin slaves vs. the dark skinslaves. You must use the female vs. the male. And the male vs. the female. You must also have you white servants andoverseers distrust all Blacks. It is necessary that your slaves trust and depend on us. They must love, respect and trustonly us. Gentlemen, these kits are your keys to control. Use them. Have your wives and children use them, never miss an opportunity. If used intensely for one year, the slaves themselves will remain perpetually distrustful of each other.Thank you gentlemen

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Blind Leading the Blind

America continues to serve as a blind country.

Blind to the darkness that surrounds it. Darkness that flows as we just go with the wind. The trickery, chaos, tragedy, the numerous deaths. What do you personally feel is the cause of all of this atrocity? Honestly, take a 2minute break, and think, these things happen around us everyday, what is the cause? Me, I don't think its chance. Things don't just happen ok. I feel that forces from another realm cause a lot of it. Yeah it might sound like crazy talk, but there is more to what our naked eyes can see. What are these forces doing you ask? They are there to create havoc. But not for everyone, the forces tend to usually try those who are not spiritually strong, with lack of a better way to explain, see a lost pedestrian and take them for a dangerous ride, hopefully leaving them with their lives. Or maybe not.

Most Americans believe that "Witchcraft" is just a long told tale to scare kids. The neighborhood witch on the cartoons with the house that creeps everyone out when they walk by. Ha. I laugh at you all. But thats another post. Now what of the talk that even that demons do not exist and walk amongst us as if they fit in. WAKE UP. In Hosea 4:6 it says "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children."

Cut throat isn't it. I really am not here to preach, I just recite where my thoughts roam. And this is where it landed. How America lives life, worried about the WRONG thing. MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY. is the motivation. Putting it before God, meaning you are worshiping it. Yet, the contridictory factor is that everyone still recites, More MONEY more PROBLEMS. Yes, money does help, but If God is for you, who can really be against you? He will bless you if you make his business your business. Think about that.

Back to where I was going with this post. I feel that overall, if people could grasp the evil that lurks at night, destroying lives, raping women, murdering parents, breaking up happy homes, leaving kids as orphans, or even causing accidents, it would give your minds a greater understanding of how blind people really are. And how we are blinded on purpose by our schedules, television, radio, idle time. We are not here just here, just to be here. We are here to captivate people and live a legacy that promotes love.

Praying every night is not enough to get you where you want to go darlin. Reading some verses in the bible will not prepare you for satan because he really knows the bible from beginning to end. It takes the one thing everyone who calls themselves a Christian is really trying to actually do, and that is to Give up EVERY inch of their lives to serve God. Thats it. If you cant, watch you continue to be tried by this darkness that you yourself have invited and allowed to have a right to vist you.

Note also that people can see the potential in you to sprout into greatness, but will deviate you from that by sucking you into their evil ways and bad habits, so you will eventually, turn up like them. WAKE UP WORLD. Cause its dinner time, and theey're ready to eat you alive.


Rhianna: Disturbing the peace

On October 22, 2009 Tiffany Evans posted online about Rihanna, and her new album Russian Roulette:

Russian Roulette= Suicidal Rate gon sky rocket!

You gotta watch what u say. Because there are a lot of weak people in the world. They are susceptible to anything so anything you say or do some people actually do listen. So make sure its nothing bad. Its okay to be deep,but not murder deep.

Man! I really wish I could tell you guys what the industry really is and what stars are apart of destroying this world. The stars who worship satan,and those who have killed to get the respect they have now. You’d be verrrry surprise. Some of your favorite people pretend to worship God but they only do that to save face. Or seem innocent.

Satan was head of music in heaven. He uses influential people…to help influence the world. Think about that. Once u make a certain amount of money. Just know that that’s when they ask u to join. To get in you have accept the beast, worship. Once you join they assist u with ur career.make u huge.only if u agree and obey to destroy Gods word.and his children.

Ppl listen and pay attention. Its a war going on right now between Good and Evil. Evil will rule this world for a min. The people that have this power are the people that RULE the whole world. I’m done I won’t say anymore before I get in trouble.

If you're one of my readers, you'd think I wrote this. Moreover, I couldn't have said it better myself. Touche.


Jay-Z: My Outlook

I'm sure you're heard or even speculated yourself that Jay-Z is apart of the Freemasons. Videos, comments, and other sources of media have filled the internet and tv stations on this speculation. Evidence so blatantly undeniable to even a common fool. I'm not concerned with him as an individual because he has made his own decision, yet I'm concerned for those being taken captive by his words, so smooth, so clever, so finely presented. Which one us can honestly say that a sweet talker couldn't talk you out of something precious to you. But, that which is most precious that the evils seek is your soul. Day and night people wage war to win each of our souls.

How do you honestly think evil people will win over your soul? Do you think it is by throwing atrocities and hardships your way? Hurting you? Deceiving you? Or lavishing you with riches, fame, money, women, properties? I you guess that, then you are correct. Why  would they want to mistreat you, who would follow someone that mistreats them? Those kind of people are not loyal are they? NO. And thats what they want, loyal people who are willing to help them accomplish their plan. (What is their plan you ask? I will get to that) Yet let it be understood that anything that the devil gives with his right hand, he still takes back from it with his left hand. As the quote goes "Mo money, mo problems". UNTRUE. The God that I serve gives with no sorrow added. Now that you have that understanding that evil people will lure you in with things that seem like "fine" things, the question is how can you tell apart what is God's fine things and what are the devils "fine" things? Understand that the devil does not come to to steal, kill, and to destroy. That is his plan, and to carry out his plan he needs followers. Besides his demons, he will use people. You already know how they get this people, but the key is that the devil will try to always replicate what God does. Now apply the no sorrow added rule that God has.

Moving on, I want to tackle Jay-Z's subject. People argue that his music is just mere entertainment. Music is not just entertainment. A person in a happy mood can change to a sad mood, a sad mood to a happy mood. It's influential. Its at times soothing to the soul. The devil was the most beautiful and the best singer in the choir when he was in heaven. It is understood that he is amongst us humans on this earth, and that he is recruiting people to join him at his end. Why wouldn't he use music is what I want to ask everyone? What would stop him if he was the best at it in heaven. And that's all they do in heaven (haha like i been there) is to praise God. Moreover, the influence that Jay-Z has on people is mighty. I know a guy who said God forgive him, that he practically "worshiped Jay-Z" at one point. 

I see it like this, as we build the Christian army, the evil are building theirs through several means. Be aware of what you are persuing. Because the difference between me as a Christian is that I accept Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior and I believe that he died on the cross for you and I. The Lamb of God. 

Some people argue that its just a ploy for him to make money. But how? He's mad his millions, he sold rocafella for more than 200 million dollars. He does tours, his wife is a millionaire also. He has a bunch of new artists. His new clothing line. He's made his money man.

On the Empire State of Mind song. He said that "Jesus cant save you, life starts when the church ends". People say that he's talking about a girl in that verse right? My first point is that if he is talking a girl in that song, why doesn't his video reflect that? 2nd point, that line is a statement. He's the one thats describing the girl, he's the one that feels that Jesus cant save her, life starts when the church ends. It's not the girls feelings towards the situation, it his. Right? He could've said "Jesus can't save her, her life starts when the church ends" so steer him clear, but he worded it as his personal statement on her situation. 

To Be cont...





Sister Sister, on the wall

..black is beauty


Told you so..

Freaks get CHOSE, regular chicks get MARRIED.
Which one are you


Daily musical diet;

...I found great music

While jamin' sir Nicolay, I stumbled upon her..

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Why I fell in love with New York

Summer in NY is the epitome of how a summer should be. Brooklyn brownstones, stoops, and chocolate men dressed to the T. This video is what made me feen to live in New York, when that man walked down the stairs with his boom box, put the tape in, and the song started. Pure bliss to my ears. Shout out to the producer It's my version of Disney Land.

i need to go back..


What if segregation still went on?

What if we had NO integration and all black children went to all black schools with black teachers? I have to agree with my teach Mrs. Williams that the black teachers would have nurtured us  and taught us to embrace our beautiful black shades and our culture. They would have given us a lesson on our history and why where are here, and given us hope to aspire beyond the sea because we are STRONG BLACK PEOPLE. But now a days, well as I was growing up, being my color and being African most importantly got me into many word spats. Black kids would call me and "African-booty scratcher" and tease me about my name, as if I was less than them. I was always confused as to where they came from since they were same color as me. Like, why are you calling me names when we both are black? 

I honestly think its because their parents lacked the education and connection with Africans and so therefore they had no knowledge to say about Africa or Africans. They couldn't inform their kids on where they specifically came from, as If the past generation were embarrassed of losing such a connection. And when someone is embarrassed of something, they tend to suppress that memory. If the memory is suppressed, how can it be retrieved to pass on. This cycle has been going on for years, and I have to remind my sister every day that black is beautiful and that there is nothing wrong with it. 

And not to mention some teachers these days are good for nothing, they treat this job just like the title "a job". But means so much more, because at times the teacher spends more time with the children than the parents do. They're cultivating the children in their classes. Yet, they're worried about getting a check. 

I don't think integration did anything but separate us Black people the more. We should've asked for the same quality of education that the white students were getting, but still having the choice to stay at our black schools. Because now we have some of these crappy white teachers who don't give a shit about the black children. And render them useless from day one. I'm sure some black teachers do the same, but I'd find that rare because they'd try to at least identify with their own kind first. So what can we do now to change these styles that teachers have? What can we do to erase this negative thought that tends to instill in our minds at an early age that BLACK is bad or negative?

Because, the future of our children is at stake. And I can't have my children's mind polluted with lies.


Real Music

112 - U Already Know

This song takes me back to an age of REAL MUSIC. Especially sexy chocolate men that could sing
I wish we had music with passion and substance these days.


Wiz Khalifa - This Plane

He's too thoed. His voice is too smooth like...


Rihanna - Rude Boy Video

I just like the video. 


A Fine Chocolate Man



I really want to go



John B. Coleman 4th Floor

Can't wait


At the end, they want you to pledge your allegiance

Don't do it.


Wiz Khalifa - Kush x Orange Juice

"Watch the niggas you run with, I done seen niggas that had allof their dreams fucked over over some dumb shit. And make no assumptions" - Wiz

I'm copp'n that album



Sounds From Hell

If you don't believe in hell or heaven, then you must not believe we exist for a reason.


RIP JJ aka Shoota Mac

 On my first day meeting you, you were soo cool. Goofy as I don't know what lol, with that smile lol. Even when I saw you on the streets you'd either make a funny face or smile. Yet some cold hearted person took your life yesterday morning. Weird thing is that I saw you around 1:45am earlier that morning. Although you have left the earth physically, you will always be in everyone's heart that you've come across, whether friends of foe. They know. Although we weren't close, you were still a cool stranger.  I pray for your family and friends at this time for God to sooth their hearts and their pain. Thank You.

As you mingle in heaven with our heavenly father who you so visibly feared and personally sought to be close to, I know you've got on that million dollar smile while you're watching us. 
Thanks for just being you, and exuding an un-prideful confidence.